Do you want
to go out?
YES NO
from: Tommy
And I showed it to my friends and they said that I should say Yes but I don't know what go out means like does it mean dating , boyfriend & girlfriend, or something els. (If you know what that means can you tell me) .
And today after school he asked me himself " OK so are we going out or not." and I said " I don't eaven know what going out means so I'll let you know tomorrow" then he said " tomorrow is saterday" then I said " Monday I'tellyou Monday" so I don't know if I should take up his offer or not so I anm going to go on to my mom's myspaceand see iff Karen or Colleen is online.
I love ya'll XOXOXOXOX
4 comments:
Oh, my sweet Sierra! Run, baby, run!! No, really - let's help you through this one.
It doesn't sound like he is just asking you to go out on a date, since he didn't say that when you talked to him. It sounds like he wants to be your boyfriend. That generally means that you sit together at assemblies & lunch time, you may go somewhere together (a movie, to get ice cream) with your parents approval, that kind of thing. You may decide to hold hands with a boyfriend and (much, much later!) even kiss him.
Sierra, you have a lot of time to get into dating. If you don't feel like spending extra time with this boy or any other right now, then just don't worry about it. Don't "take him up on his offer" just to make him feel better or because your friends say you should (that's called negative peer pressure).
I'll take this opportunity to encourage you, Sierra. I was way too concerned about boys when I was growing up. I think that I felt like I needed attention from boys in order to feel good about myself. You (and I) are worthy and lovely and special - not because of what we do or who we spend time with - but because we are princesses to the King. We are God's little girls, which means we are valuable beyond measure.
I love you very much and can't wait to hear what you decide! Have fun!!
Add me to your mom's myspace friends: http://www.myspace.com/kristicw
Ahh, Sierra, you are growing up so quickly! Thanks for sharing your latest dilemma.
It sounds to me like he's someone who is a bit shy - it's not a friend who already knows you, right? I'm sure he's noticed your smile and your sweet nature:
Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as braided hair and the wearing of gold jewelry and fine clothes. Instead, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God's sight. (1 Peter 3-4).
While I agree with Aunt Kristi that he's likely asking to "go steady", consider asking him to clarify. "Do you mean, would you like to go on a date?" is a fair question!
You are still young. There is no hurry to have exclusive relationships. If you choose to "go out", I would encourage you do so in a group. Invite him to a coffee shop after school with three or four other friends and see how it goes. Or, a group study session at the library or park.
"Going steady" or dating can be nice - but don't let it get too serious (for your heart's sake). Defer to your parents in this matter; my parents asked me to wait until 15 to date, and frankly I was relieved!
Also: consider his feelings. Don't string him along if you don't want to go out (or don't feel ready). Trust me from experience: he's scared to death of what you will say! Be straightforward and honest - if you say, "no", say also why: "not right now", or, "Your note was sweet, but I'm not ready yet". If he's grumpy or smelly, you can just say, "My dad says not yet". =) Be kind.
If you say "yes", be clear what you're saying yes to! A movie, studying, whatever.
We love you! Let us know how it goes.
Well, Miss Sierra, you have arrived! Most girls can't wait to be "grown up," but they don't understand that being a grown up means that now you have to make grown up decisions. "Going steady" or "going together" can mean many different things to different people. If you aren't sure what he is asking, then you need him to explain. Once he does, then you can make a good decision. You have all the time in the world to explore boys and why tie yourself down to just one boy right now. Take his interest as a compliment, treat him nicely, and remember in all things, be kind. We girls can crush a boy by our words... so treat him kindly.
I know you have a good heart and will say just the right thing.
Remember: God has prepared the right person for you, so don't just settle for anyone.
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